autism Helps

I am about to have a child and another one of my friends just found out that her child has autism. This has me concerned as a new mother, I have too many friends and colleagues who are battling this disorder. After doing research I feel that some of the vaccinations required are either not needed or maybe too young for my child to handle.
It is interesting because my husband is from Japan and he, his family, and friends have even heard of Autism until coming to America. Already his friend's son is showing signs of autism and she is very confused and frightened as to what it is. We did a comparative research on the schedule and the vaccinations needed in both countries and Japan has fewer vacs and their schedule is more widespread (ie, you don't receive your first vac after birth) Also, it is not required for parents to vaccinate their children but is highly recommended.
So is there a way to refuse vacciantions in the state of IL or do I have to move?

My daughter is 12.5 months old.
She can only say dada, mama, up, doll, bye bye, that, and boobie (she's still nursing).
She walks 8-12 steps at a time.
She would rather feed herself with a fork and stab the food, than to scoop the food up with a spoon. She will not touch her food without a utensil in her hand. On her 1st birthday 2 weeks ago, we put a big slice of cake in front of her, and she wouldn't "dive in" with her hands, she just sat there until we put a fork in front of her, then she started eating it. Is this a sign of OCD????
She takes her clothes off all the time, even the diaper.
I'm worried she may be showing signs of Autism. Our 7yo son has Aspergers, a high-functioning autism. He was talking lots by his first birthday, and walking months before he was 12 months old. So we are really concerned about this!!
She did not have her 12 month checkup because her doctor has been out of town, and I want her seen by our regular doctor, not just "whoever in the practice can see her"!